Number one on the list of phone call rules for women is to bear in mind that men don’t view phone calls the same way women do. Women love being in touch with a man they are interested in, some men feel the same way, but most aren’t.
It’s rare to find a man who will find long or frequent calls appealing. I know it because all men I’ve been dating and having interest in display the exact same attitude re. phone calls and text messages.
They will just take their time period. Don’t get discouraged if a day or two passes and you don’t hear from the man in your life.
I have three rules concerning calling a man you’re dating until you become exclusive or until you’re sure where he stands in regards of his feeling toward you and your relationship and his view on talking on the phone:
1. Don’t call him.
2. Don’t call him.
3. Don’t call him.
You have no reason to call him whatsoever. None. Of course there are times when you perhaps need to call like in emergency situations and nobody else is available to help you. Or he is expecting you to call or want you to call once in a while (which means once in a GREAT while). Or you’re on your way to meet him and you need to a quick confirmation on something. Other than that, he knows where to find you when he wants to talk.
Men actually take the issue of phone calls and texts seriously. They use your behavior regarding these things to make certain assumptions about you. For instance, if you are constantly calling the men you date and not waiting for them to make that first move, some of those men are going to label you as too aggressive and maybe even borderline desperate.
There are three reasons why you shouldn’t initiate the calling:
1. Most men talk much less than we do and they usually are not very good at multitasking. So when you call out of the blue and he is in the middle of something, he might ignore the call and find it a nuisance or he might answer, yet it won’t be a positive experience that leaves you feel good (because he has to cut you short, he’s distracted, etc…).
2. When he initiates the calls, you’re sure that he’s in the position/mood to talk and as such it gives you the positive experience of connecting that you want.
3. You don’t want to create a precedence that you are the one who initiate all the contacts all the time and he never does that. When a man feels that you will do the work anyway, they’ll stop making the efforts and in the process they feel that you’re in charge and their attraction bulb is somewhat turned off now.
Remember, men want to pursue you, not the other way around. You may say, “But this is 2011!” True, apart from they haven’t much evolved since 1911, or 1811 or even 1511.
You need to always remember that men and women view phone calls, emails and text in very different ways. If you make the mistake of calling too frequently, at the wrong time or before he’s ready to hear from you, you can actually turn him off. Every woman should know all about calling men if she wants to stay in control in her relationship. Women unwittingly ruin their chances of a future with a man because they are too over eager to hear from him. Don’t let this happen to you.